I grew up watching the strongest women in my life struggle to look in the mirror. Always searching for the perfect diet or fix, the thing that would finally make them enough. Because surely they would be seen if they could only do what society said to do, right?
So why did so many of us grow up believing we were never enough? Like, there was always more we had to do, more we had to fix? We didn’t have hype women in our corners reminding us how powerful and perfect we were. Instead, we were taught how to shrink. How to dress. How to act. Making sure our shorts were just above that knee and the straps on our shirts were 2-3 fingers thick.
We weren’t meant to be seen, just to stay in that tiny box society deemed acceptable. Stepping out of that box to get any form of attention, good or bad, was always met with shame. Dimming our light and cementing a foundation of limiting beliefs, self-doubt and that quiet voice in our minds saying “you’re not enough”.
What about intimacy?
I, like many of us, had that story start too early, in the wrong ways, without the safety or understanding we deserved or needed.
Confusion layered on top of insecurity… and suddenly, we’re disconnected from ourselves entirely. So we spend years trying to be chosen, trying to feel confident and worthy of love.
When I say I get it… I get it.
But here’s the truth no one told us:
